Sextortion – are you aware of it?

As so many are flocking to cell phones and the ages of the users are getting younger, there is a topic that parents need to be aware of.

Sextortion is a form of sexual exploitation that employs non-physical forms of coercion to extort sexual favors from the victim. Sextortion refers to the broad category of sexual exploitation in which abuse of power is the means of coercion, as well as to the category of sexual exploitation in which threatened release of sexual images or information is the means of coercion.[1]

We as a society need to be able to band together to combat this psychological attack against our youth. 83% of the victims are female, and 46% are minors. Like physical sexual assault, it is estimated that only a third or less of the victims report the crime. 60% of the perpetrators knew the victim before the incident.

I have reviewed the evidence of one of these cases personally. No, I will not share that data as the victim does not deserve that. The portrayal below is based on that incident but is sanitized for her privacy. This was properly reported to the appropriate authorities.

Here is how this abuse occurred:

  • Victim received a text from an unknown source
  • criminal claimed that they had nude photos of the victim
  • They also recited her street address, including which room within her apartment was hers
  • the pictures were going to be shared on all forms of social media unless she complied with the criminal
  • the criminal wanted her to disrobe for more pictures
  • on a the second day the criminal resumed texting with a more aggressive tone
  • the same intent of getting more pictures
  • Criminal escalated to calling the victim and pressuring her to an online video chat service in Scandinavia (I believe in Norway) to excuse herself from family to go to a bathroom to disrobe and put herself on display.

As I and my colleagues tried to trace the evidence and find the personal data exposure, we were impressed with the victim’s awareness of protecting her data. She does not have her college address shared with any databases other than Amazon, and even they did not have which room was hers.

Text messages are very hard to trace unless you are law enforcement. Even for them, they are not easy. Because of my role, I was able to provide the FBI with the owner (not the user) of the phone numbers used to text and call the victim.  I was also able to  alert the abuse team at the video chat service so that they could review the actions of their users. Since I did not have a subpoena, I was unable to get data to relay to the FBI.

When the victim returned to campus, she found that her roommates were also victims. Since the issue was clearly involving a local perp, the apartment management was advised. They had a very lame excuse that this was a data breach when someone restarted the internet. I am still stunned with how stupid this answer is. The apartment management company did say that seven women had come forward. This number ended up rising to twenty when published by a local media source. The article was a plea for other victims to come forward. It is my personal opinion that the apartment complex has a rogue employee that needs to be identified, arrested, and prosecuted. So far this particular incident is limited to the complex.

When I asked if the abuse has continued, the victim stated that there has not been a peep since the police report was filed. The situation is getting great exposure on campus so the student body is much more aware.

If you check the links below, you will find that this situation is not isolated, but becoming more and more common.

Parents need the same level of awareness. This is the tool that you need to arm your kids (regardless of how grown that they are) so that they can fend off these pond scum samples.

Obviously the first line is to make sure that they do not have these kinds of pictures TO BE shared in the first place. I also know that this is wishful thinking, just like abstaining from sex before committed relationships. It is talking to them so that they know if they do not have content for the criminals to share, then why co-operate with their demands. Do not delete the texts, call logs or any other evidence. The local police (and likely the FBI) need to be contacted. Take the time to file the report. The perp needs to be caught. This is nothing to be ashamed of. Even if your kids DID have content that could be exposed, this is not the time to blame the victim. They did nothing to deserve this. My thought is to treat that situation as you would when your kid calls form a party/bar after drinking. Get them to safety then discuss when it is more mentally safe to do so. If your kids know without a doubt that you will stand with them, then they will be more likely to tell you of the incident so you can help them through it.

I hope that nobody that you know has to go through this, but the numbers indicate that it will hit close to home.

Related useful links:

Prosecutors: ‘Sextortion’ Cases Targeting Young Women At Alarming Rate


The Next Chapter in the Stubinville case


I am shocked (even though I guess I should have expected this kind of protectionism from the athletics community) that the West Virginia U.S. Attorney William J. Ihlenfeld is going to teach athletes to hide their rapes by not posting the evidence online.

God forbid that you teach these kids (and young adults) not to rape! You really want to just teach them to be careful about their sexual assaults?

What is the message that you are sending Mr. Ihlenfeld? I suppose that this is all the fault of the victims and witnesses to the respective crimes? They were asking for it or were egging it on? You want us to think that these are just good boys that are getting wrapped up in the heat of the moment?

No! This is not the society that we want to live in. If you want to avoid prosecution and being dragged through the mud but the people and the media… don’t rape women (or men), treat them with respect, accept a “no” when it is given. Accept that once they are passed out, they are no longer player in the romance game.

“Project Future” my ass you are PROMOTING rape by teaching young people how to better get away with it you slimy sack of shit!

Do you really think that cell phones and social media caused those football players to rape the drunken (reportedly passed out) 16 year old girl? Hell no! It seems to me to be more of a situation where the jocks once again thought that they could do what they damned well pleased.

“[H]is goal is to teach teens how to avoid getting in trouble with the law by using cell phones, cameras, and social media “responsibly.”2

I stole the previous line as I could not have summarized it better myself.

We need to take a stand in situations like these. I am not a fan of adding law after law since we already have much of what we need for daily life. Is there something already on the books in this case, or is it something that common sense should already be covering. This ass needs to lose his job over promoting this. It is bad enough that the legal systems screws us on a daily basis, do we need them to teach our youth to rape our kids too (and have a better chance of getting away with it)?

Mr  Ihlenfeld, you are trying to protect the athletes form ruining THEIR lives? How about protecting them from  not ruining the lives of others simply because they are unable to keep their dicks in their pants. Teach them that if they cannot get a consenting adult to have sex with, then it is perfectly fine to jack (or jill) off like the rest of us.


here are some citations that I pillaged from the email that I got from Ultra-Violet (I suspect that they won’t mind since I am sharing their views on this one):


1. Steubenville-Inspired Program Teaches Teen Jocks Not to Instagram Rape, Jezebel, August 9, 2013

2. U.S. Attorney Kicks Off Drug & Social Media Education Program for Student-Athletes, U.S. Attorney’s Office, August 8, 2013

3. Ohio rape case prompts student athlete social media program, Charleston Daily Mail, August 8, 2013

4. Ohio Teenagers Guilty in Rape That Social Media Brought to Light, New York Times, March 17, 2013

5. Research Blog: Teaching Men Rape Prevention Actually Works, SPARK Movement, April 10, 2013

6. ‘Don’t Be That Guy’ ad campaign cuts Vancouver sex assaults by 10 per cent in 2011, The Globe and Mail, January 21, 2012




IRS claims it can read your e-mail without a warrant

Anyone for a forth amendment discussion? Does, or should, the government have the right to peruse individual’s e-mail accounts, and chat history, without cause or a warrant?

If they are allowed to continue this practice, how long before corporations are given the same “rights”?


By, Eyes_Open

Christian Bale – Please do not fall to the requests

There is a wave of folks, as large wave on Facebook…
that are asking Christian Bale to don the Batman costume and visit the victims of yesterdays attack.

While this is well intentioned and heartfelt, I am concerned that due to the circumstances, it would be unwise to make that visit.

We are talking about a group of people who were watching his performance at the time.
Would this cause, or agitate any PTSD symptoms?

Your Face Online

What causes an aversion to posting your own face, on an anonymous website?
With today’s technology, you’re video taped from the moment you leave your home, until the time you return. Then there’s the face to face. People see you. They see you at work. At play. Shopping. Driving. Oh the horror! The thousands of clicks on your Facebook pic. By friends of friends, of friends.. But few really are, friends. So why does the line get drawn, at a place such as here?