What is the controversy in 13 Reasons Why?

Over the last couple of days Gigglez and I have binge watched “13 Reasons Why” (https://www.netflix.com/title/80117470). The general premise is simple, yet quite complex.  A high school junior commits suicide, but before she does, records a series of audio tapes. These tapes involve all of those that contributed to her decision to end her life. Each person on the tapes are to listen to them and pass them onto the next person.

I think that this may be the most important series that I have watched in quite some time. The level of passion in the work harkens back to Dead Poets Society. Reaching deeply into the high school minds.

I am a fan of what Stephen King says about banned or censored works:

“Censorship and the suppression of reading materials are rarely about family values and almost always about control about who is
snapping the whip, who is saying no, and who is saying go. Censorship’s bottom line is this: if the novel Christine offends me, I don’t want just to make sure it’s kept from my kid; I want to make sure it’s kept from your kid, as well, and all the kids. This bit of intellectual arrogance, undemocratic and as old as time, is best expressed this way: “If it’s bad for me and my family, it’s bad for everyone’s family.”

Yet when books are run out of school classrooms and even out
of school libraries as a result of this idea, I’m never much disturbed not as a citizen, not as a writer, not even as a schoolteacher . . . which I used to be. What I tell kids is, Don’t get mad, get even. Don’t spend time waving signs or carrying petitions around the neighborhood. Instead, run, don’t walk, to the nearest nonschool library or to the local bookstore and get whatever it was that they banned. Read whatever they’re trying to keep out of your eyes and your brain, because that’s exactly what you need to know.” 
― Stephen King

So, as controversy is starting to stir, we decided to see why. What is the idea that “they” did not want us to see?  Was it the sex, drugs, suicide, free thought, bullying, or what? The negative press is asserting that the show is somehow condoning suicide, rape, drugs, and alcohol.  We simply did not find that to be the case. We found it to be illuminating the problems rather than glorifying them.

This series draws you in tightly with a broad spectrum of demographics and personalities. The cast was convincing in their roles.  Their portrayals caused emotional response and reflection for me.  It may be too hot of a topic for the various award giving entities to give the appropriate accolades.

Katherine Langford plays the role of the girl who chose to end her life. The life, death, and everything in between had such vibrancy it was the girl next door.

Dylan Minnette, the male lead, pulled of his role to such quality that it had me thinking of my youth. Back came the memories of the girls that I wished that I had the courage to approach. The cheerleader in math class, everyday taunting my middle school mind.

I think the one who stood out most for me was Kate Walsh. She played the grieving mother, struggling to come to terms with what happened with her cherished daughter. Why did she lose her daughter and could there have been anything that she or the school could have done to prevent it.  I could see in her the pain of all of the mothers who have lost a child. I have enjoyed her work since Gray’s Anatomy, but this role was far beyond the characters that I have seen her in before.  I know that she has kids, and that may have been part of what propelled the emotional buy-in that we saw. It was an utterly stunning role to see her play out.

As the series unfolds and we see more and more of the factors come to light it is difficult to watch as you know what is about to happen.  I am being mindful of spoilers so there is much more that I would like to say, but, it would be better for you to watch for yourself.  The episodes delve into areas that we wish did not exist, and for some, pretend that they don’t.  Guess what people, kids are mean, bullies exist, sex is had (consensual and rape), drugs and alcohol gets consumed.  When you watch this series (and I hope that you do if you have the strength) take the time to watch the follow-up episode.  The breakdown of the rationale for the way that certain scenes were carried out was quite valuable.

My wife and I were both reminded of those that we lost in our youth. The names, and faces from the past. We lost people, almost lost people and have had some that we reached out to when we were worried. In the end we cannot help but wonder how many times we missed a friend in need.  We also have to think about how something we may have said, or NOT said could have nudged someone to a darker place without meaning to, or realizing it.

Where does this leave our society? We need to be more thoughtful in how we interact and raise our kids. We have to be open, mindful, watchful, and communicative.  It is too bad that we cannot instill the golden rule upon our kids and have it stick with them for their entire lives. We are not perfect, nor are our kids.

 

Ms. Lips is bored

When Ms. Lips gets bored, it may be dangerous.

I am pretty sure that Ms. Lips and Ms. Badcat are both on the same pages as to what I have been doing over the last month.

Gigglez and I dropped the daughter off at WSU Pullman.

We are very proud of her. Now that she is an adult… Go Bree!!!

As part of her path toward veterinary school, she has to be mindful of all of those things that will make her more attractive to getting accepted. This is not some overnight idea for her. she has had this plan in play as long as I have known her. We are talking since she was ten or so.

Here is where we can kill two birds with one stone. Ms. Lips, I know that you are wonderfully smart, so how about we exercise the synapses.

I was thinking that we can develop a crowd funding type project that she can do (with help from behind the curtain) that is in some way pet related community oriented charity work.

Welcome back you two!

Benefit for Jolanda and Family

If you are here looking for ways to help Jolanda and her family, please click on the link below.

 

http://www.pissedoffpirate.com/the-back-alley/benefit-for-jolanda-and-family/

 

Thank you so much for checking in.

Gay Marriage; States rights, federal rights, or human rights

By Eyes_open

 

As the Supreme Court takes on the issue of California’s Proposition 8, and the federal DOMA, and Jeb Bush weighs in that he believes marriage should be a states rights issue, where do you stand on the issue of same-sex marriage, and why. Is it a matter that should be left to each state, should the federal government be involved and to what degree. Or is this a constitutional violation of civil rights, placing it in the hands of the Supreme Court.

Random Act of Compassion

The other night, Gigglez and I were out for a quick bite to eat.

As we ate I noticed a sight impaired gentleman tapping his way north on the east side of Highway 99. What I could not see fully from my seat was, that at the corner there was construction netting that had the curb closed off.

The family two tables over had a much better view, and they became concerned as this poor guy ran out of sidewalk and was no longer and to navigate. his bearing were getting quite screwed up.  (for the non-locals highway 99 is a five lane (including the turn lane) surface street and we were a block form a Walmart so it is busy.

The father of the family beside us jumped up, and briskly crossed the street to get to the man  who was getting even further turned around. we were afraid that he was going to step off of the curb and get hurt, or worse.

We did see a couple other people catch up to him at the same time.

It turned out that he was headed to Popeye’s as well and is a frequent customer. I did find it notable that he unknowingly took the exact seat that his rescuer was sitting in. I did get a staffer to clean the tables for him. There were crumbs everywhere and she had just served his food to him at the table… I don’t know WHY she did not wipe them down on her own. just because he can SEE that the table is dirty doesn’t mean that she shouldn’t take care of it. I even offered to wipe them down myself to make it easy. bah…

in the end, several people did a great job stepping up to make sure that this gentleman lived to get his dinner. After what I saw last week, I did not want to see any more sheets being draped over anyone any time soon.

Stay safe people, and keep an eye out for these around you. 🙂

 

The Young – Horman suit

Well thanks to Reality101 we have a copy of the lawsuit that Desiree Young has filed against Terri Horman.
This link has been added to the most recent Kyron webpage (http://www.pissedoffpirate.com/index.php/kyron-horman/desiree-young-drags-terri-and-kyron-horman-back-into-the-headlines/)

 

This is the link to the full text of the 10 million dollar complaint.

http://katubim.s3.amazonaws.com/Terri%20Horman%20Lawsuit.pdf

Weekend summary

Good morning!

What a productive weekend.
After I left off from Saturday’s post, we had a really good time at the bar Saturday night. I did have the displeasure of having the singer for one of the bands cup check me while I was not looking.

We did block out our wedding night so that the bar will not have a band, but karaoke so we can sing our butts off.
Yesterday, for my birthday proper… there was a drama explosion and Kizzody, his girlfriend and daughter ended up moving out. They still have some stuff to pick up, but I have the only key to the house and all windows/door have been secured. Perhaps then they calm down, they will come to understand where they went wrong. For the immediate time, we are unreasonable etc. Which is okay, we know the truth. . .
The savings in the bills between now and the wedding should be enough to pay for the hall that we are renting for the wedding and reception.

Last night at 11:15 or so Gigglez, Bree and I stood in the kitchen and I simply said “shhh… Listen to that…” all you could hear was the water running through the filter on the aquarium, so peaceful.
Gigglez will be worried about her baby duck I am sure, but I think it is all for the best. Over the next few days, things will start getting easier for her. Bree is back to her dad’s for this week so the house will be silent. We will start making repairs to the house, patching all of the holes in the walls and the doors (will have to be replaced) from Kizody’s temper tantrum.

(Thanks go to those who let me vent last night)

It has been a busy day

Well we have been quite busy today.

Gigglez had to pull some overtime this morning, so she is grabbing a quick nap.
We had a baby shower to go to, which was actually on the same property that we needed to look at for our wedding.
After the shower we put down the deposit for the Luepke Center for our wedding and all ages reception.
Saturday November 3rd has been made official.
The officiant is working on the ceremony and it will likely be a blend of American Indian and Wiccan.

Now that we have a location, the real work can begin. I am assembling the guest lists.
The bachelor/bachelorette parties will be held on October 20th. They will be merged to a jack and jill party at the Back Alley for the second half of the evening. Who in their right mind wants to hold those the night before the wedding… silly kids just don’t know better.

While I am at the bar tonight for Tyger’s and my birthday party (we will be heading down at about 9) I will lock in the wedding date for the 21 and over reception.
More details as appropriate. . .

Produce diversity

This was also supposed to fire off over the weekend.

Is anyone concerned about the lack of diversity in produce?
We are seeing the genetic engineering of plant increase tremendously.
The strains are being patented and farmers are getting clobbered by stray seed in their fields.
They sample the fields and find the patented strain in the field and charge them, when the farmer did not even WANT that seed in the field.
There are some seed banks that are safeguarding strains of pure seeds just in case the shit hits that fan, but who will really have access to it?
It looks like my garden will be going in late, but I feel that I need to do something to get real vegetables into my diet.
I mentioned the whole corn price thing, and not seeing why it has to have gone that way…
Why is it getting so hard to do the right thing for our diets?

Do they think that we are idiots?

This article is based on a site that was forwarded to to me. (http://consumerist.com/2012/05/has-the-grocery-shrink-ray-turned-saltines-round.html)

Perhaps this is just another case of the pendulum swinging. We see it with the courts and legislation, why not the retail market?

We saw portion sizes increase over a generation or two, until Supersize Me came along an showed people how bad things were getting. (BTW the guy in Supersize Me must have been a pansy since he could not last a month on fast food, but I went roughly 18 months without a home cooked meal)

Remember when we used to buy ice cream by the half gallon? Now it is not that easy to FIND a half gallon container.

This year the boxes of girl scout cookies were in smaller packages and a higher price. I am done with them unless I just WANT a box when they are standing outside the store. The troops only get 25 or 50 cents per box, granted they are relying on volume, but shit!  Plain old macaroni, we could get a 3 pound (?) bag, now I am seeing a pound and a half or one pound…

Is the market shrinking the sizes of the packages to make more variety available in the stores?

Is this just  away to sneak a price increase past the multitudes of sheeple?